Why does it bother me so much that we don't have the same outlook on life? We aren't dating, yet, officially, whatever you want to call it, but occasionally I will bring up the topic of marriage, kids, or something to do with the future. Now, I don't expect to be with him in that time frame, but the fact that he has a different goal in life bothers me. Maybe it's the fact that he doesn't have a goal at all, at least none that I know of. Anyway, I want the (a)typical American dream, married with kids. He on the other hand isn't so fond of the whole idea. He doesn't like kids and his parents marriage has made him skeptical. Our approaches to life are totally opposite; I tend to think and over-think things, he just doesn't think about anything at all. I should give him more credit than that though. He's not completely useless (I'm joking, I'm joking). I do admire how mentally strong he is. Some days I wish I had his will and brashness. He says what's on his mind, which means he never lies. He'll give the honest and brutal truth and not shrug a shoulder. Though all these traits are great, his somewhat lack of direction makes me wonder if I should even bother dating him. I say that because his average dating period is about a year, mine is about a month. If through some miracle, we last a month, we'll last for a long time. And I mean it when I say this. I want a long-term relationship. I want to know what it feels like to be in love for that long and actually be with someone. (I've been in love with someone for that long, we just never dated...again...long story.) I believe I can have that with him. But, if we aren't going to end on the same page later down the road, to whatever milestone that may be, does that say anything about his commitment level? Does that say that he is one to be fine with how the way things are? So many questions are running through my mind; but I'll ask these: Would you date someone knowing that their outlook on life/life goals differ(s) from yours?
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