But it sure felt that way. I met this guy online about two months ago. From what his profile read, he didn't seem like he had a personality let alone did he look my type. I messaged him on day and that was when I entered this roller coaster ride. The very first day we talked we hit it off instantly. We'd cuss at each other, joke on each other, act as if we were best buds that had known each other for years. It was a great start in my book. About two weeks later, we both vocalized how we felt about each other. We had a strong connection. I liked him a lot. I stayed up late just to talk to him after work, waited by my phone for a text or call; I was sprung to say the least. It was definitely apparent that he liked me too. He had never been with a guy before, so he was kinda apprehensive with sharing these feelings. I would always ask him if he's ok feeling the way he does. He said his feelings were genuine, he wouldn't lie. I believed him. He was the first guy where things were going well since I've moved here. The first good thing going for me for awhile, so there was some understandable excitement that came with this. Fast forward about three more weeks. I had just got back from my trip to Cedar Point and I was talking to him through IM. For the past week he's been talking about how his job has been bothering him by changing his hours. I told he could always quit, then he said that he might just move out to Ohio if he gets this one job. I was stunned. My mind started racing and my heart was trying to keep up. It took every ounce of strength in my body to type a reply. I put it in such a childish way that even he would understand:
Then he delivered the knockout punch. Just when I thought he'd say something sweet to make it all better, he says:
him: its not like we're dating
I couldn't believe what I just read. That little phrase erased everything I thought about him. Everything we ever said to each other suddenly didn't mean a thing. I never would have said anything if he felt that way! I was confused and angry; I still am. Why would you give me this feeling of security and love if it wasn't genuine. When you said you don't lie, you don't. But you did. You said you could see us together, but I guess you didn't mean anytime soon. I have used this phrase before and now I know the damage it can do. I vow to never use it again. But that leaves me to wonder...If two people are acting like they're dating, yet aren't "officially", to me it's the same thing. Making it official is a cop-out and an excuse if that is the only way for you to act a certain way or say certain things. Then again that is my extreme opinion.
So that begs the question, have you ever used this phrase before or have you been the victim of it?
No i've never been a victim of it or never used this phrase before. But nonetheless I'm curious? What did you say after that? It is a harsh thing to say but perhaps that's the way he really feels. That or he could be hiding it with behind that statement.
Er, i've used it before. But I definitely was not dating the person and let them know beforehand that I didn't like them; they were just stalking me. -_-
@insert_label_here_003@xanga - i actually didn't say anything. i couldn't think of anything to say without breaking down. when i didn't send anything back immediately he asked if i was ok, i said yea. i just carried on conversation as if nothing happened. i was pissed.
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No i've never been a victim of it or never used this phrase before. But nonetheless I'm curious? What did you say after that? It is a harsh thing to say but perhaps that's the way he really feels. That or he could be hiding it with behind that statement.
Er, i've used it before. But I definitely was not dating the person and let them know beforehand that I didn't like them; they were just stalking me. -_-
@insert_label_here_003@xanga - i actually didn't say anything. i couldn't think of anything to say without breaking down. when i didn't send anything back immediately he asked if i was ok, i said yea. i just carried on conversation as if nothing happened. i was pissed.
@fancykong@xanga - hahaha wow. creepers.